It has been 8 days now. Today was my first day back to work. On any other day I would say, "I hate my job." Today it was a blessing. Small baby steps back to reality.
Mom is dealing with Dad's passing like the strong woman I knew she was. She has had me take her around town true - but she is dealing with the issues as they come up. Oh the legalities of death. Eek! Tomorrow is the attorney. Shouldn't be too bad.
I find the steps of grief amazing. And how Mom, my sister and I are at all different points. I talked to my best friend today. She offered an insight - those who cry the most regret the most. I'm not sure if it is true - but I am going to pay more attention to this point.
Okay, onward! There are a few things I must show! I sent Mary Jane (CalamityJr - no blog) my very first RAK. I have started my second and I haven't gotten very far. Would you like to see Mary Jane's pin cushion?
Bluebird Blackbird Designs white 28ct linen DMC Variation Floss |
And then last Sunday before my world turned upside down - I won a surprise give away Emily had!
If you are still with me --- I want to tell you something. I had wondered why I started blogging when I did. Now I know. I needed time to find friends. Because I would need all of you. You will never know how very much your friendship means to me. Thank you for being there when I needed you! You have made a difference in my life this last week.
Hoping to stitch soon -
Denise
15 comments:
May I offer a second opinion? I don't think that those cry most are those who regret the most. I remember years ago a neighbor of mine lost his wife suddenly and I told him I wish I could take his pain away. He told me that he didn't want it to be taken. His pain was in direct proportion to the love that he had for her. The more we love, the more we grieve. I think that is a much more beautiful thought! Hang in there!
Hugs
Peggy H.
I've said before that I believe we come across one another for a purpose. I'm glad to have 'met' you via blogging and treasure you.
Time definitely does help and I'm sending positive thoughts your way!
Love your pin cushion....I love the thread color you used.
happy stitching....
Everyone handles grief in their own way and it is our own signature of life, our own thoughts, memories and emotions. Cry if you need, Laugh when you can but always listen for the wind chimes in your life.
Nice to see you back at it my friend and what a payload. wooo hooo.
As always, you know where to find me...
It was so wonderful to see your blog post come up on my dashboaerd. I so missed your postings
I know that when there is a death in the family that there is a lot of emotion and commotion to deal with
I can remember telling a student of mine, who was going to his 1st funeral (a grandparent) to keep in mind that even though it would be hard, he would be seeing people he hadn't seen for a while. (His family lived away from the rest of the family.) He told me when he got back that I had been right he was glad he was able to see his family again
I had to remember that myself when my parents died. It did help a lot, seeing people I hadn't seen in years . . . but, losing them still sucked big time.
So now, when I go to the funeral home for a close friend, I always say to them .. . this sure sucks, doesn't it? It catches them off guard and brings a smile.
SO, I shall leave you with this . . your last week has sure sucked, hasn't it?
Denise, you're such a beautiful person!! I'm so glad to have you as a friend!! I was so glad when I found out you won my surprise giveaway!! I am glad your blogging friends have been here for you when you needed them/us!!
Hang in there...You are braver than you think...Pooh said that and he can't be wrong!
Keeping you in my thoughts, and sending {{hugs}} to you....
I'm relieved to hear you're finding your way along with baby steps, and that you, your mom and your sister are all together. Take care of yourself!
Glad to see you back, remember we are here for you, use us when needed.
Love you gifts, you have loads to read and do now.
Love Marlene
Lovely pin cushion .
Just take each day as it comes . The pain will always be there , but time helps you to cope with it in a better way .
Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs . X
It is good to see you back, Denise--I can totally relate to your comment about blogging friends. They really make a difference in our lives, don't they?
Your gift to Mary Jane is lovely--especially like the threads you chose.
Hope you can find something to smile about each day... Take care now.
Glad to see you back Denise. I'm sure this is a very rough time for you. Take care.
Glad that you are back, time will help heal the hurting. Beautiful job on the pin cushion, the colour looks lovely.
Hugs Crystal
I think Peggy said it beautifully.
Its been nearly 6 years since I lost my beloved Grandad and I still cry over him today, I miss him terribly, he was the love of my life, soo special to me and we had an amazing bond.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Hugs
LISA V
I told you we would be here for you when you came back ;o) It's nice to see that you're back to work and dealing with your loss. Just remember, take the time 'you' need! I think your BF has a good point. When I lost Brie, I never cried so much in my life but I was full of regrets and doubts. It definitely makes sense.
Your pin cushion is darling and I'm sure Mary Jane loved it :o)
Oh, ho, ho! You had some great mail days and definitely deserved! It's important to keep your spirits up you know so stash shopping should not be out of the question either ;o)
((((HUGS))))
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